Remember The Young African Man Who Married A 72 Year Old Mzungu Sugar Mummy, See What Shockingly Happened To Them After 2 Years
In marriage, we are programmed by default that the male should be older than the female, which is normal and okay. That however, does not mean a reverse situation isn’t normal or wrong.
Marriage is marriage, with no particular age order. In Africa, marrying a younger man is frowned upon or rejected outrightly.Bernard Musyoki met his wife Deborah, 70, on Facebook four years ago and the two are now happily married.
37-year-old Musyoki met his 72-year-old wife, who lives in Michigan, USA, on Facebook and they fell in love despite many objections from friends and relatives.
“I bought a ring worth Ksh.50 for my wedding and my wife used the one she had. She told me she didn’t mind the fact that I got a cheap ring. What mattered to her was me, her prince charming,” Musyoki narrates.
On February 2, 2021, Bernard Musyoki and Deborah Jan Spicer walked up to Sheria House in Nairobi and tied the knot. A trustworthy news source claims that the man, who has been named as Musyoki Benard, wed his wife in the year 21.
Musyoki had on a ring worth Ksh.50, while Deborah spotted relatively old ring, but they were not going to let this mere factor put on a dent on the happiest day of their lives. Although Deborah is almost twice his age, Musyoki believes that theirs is true love that will conquer anything.
“I don’t have a choice on who I fall in love with. She’s the perfect person, it just happens that she lives thousands of miles away,” sais the Malindi-based businessman.
He revealed that in 2018, he was to travel to the US to meet her, but was denied a visa.They kept communicating, and on December 29, 2020, the woman decided to travel to Kenya to meet her prince charming.Ben said in interviews with the media that he hadn’t seen his wife since she departed the nation soon after their wedding.
They talk on FaceTime a lot, he said, and he has total faith that she will stay faithful to him.When they heard his story, Kenyans were incensed at the man he said had married her in exchange for a visa, and they took to social media platforms like Facebook and Twitter to vent their emotions.
The woman is almost twice his age and doesn’t seem interested in having sêx with him, thus most Kenyans, it seems, assumed the man’s romance story was a hoax.In support, other Kenyans have said that they think it’s great that the guy and lady stood up for themselves.
Benard revealed that Deborah’s children are also older than him and they relate well. He said when their mother told them she had found love again, they accepted him and supported their relationship.
Unlike many couples who live together after getting married, Musyoki last saw his wife in June 2021, but the long distance does not hinder them from doing everything together.
“We do everything together, we shop together, take walks together, cook together, sometimes I might encounter something interesting and she is the first person I want to share it with. This has made us grow fond of each other every passing day,” he says.
Every relationship, however, has its own set of challenges, and theirs is no different.
“We experience challenges like any other relationship, sometimes I miss her so much. With distance, you don’t know sometimes what your partner is up to and so you need all the reassurance you can get,” Musyoki says.
He notes that when a couple trusts each other and are committed, they can beat anything, including long distance.
“I take care of myself, I am faithful and I know my wife is faithful too. I cannot cheat on her because I know how that would hurt her and break our marriage,” he adds.
In 2018, Musyoki was to travel to the United States to meet his princess, but he was denied a Visa. He notes that the Visa process is a long and rigorous process requiring proof of the relationship as well as financial records.